Let me see if I can help: Tolerance is not an end in and of itself. It's sort of a game-theoretic equilibrium, equivalent to an iterated prisoner's dilemma wh

Let me see if I can help: Tolerance is not an end in and of itself. It's sort of a game-theoretic equilibrium, equivalent to an iterated prisoner's dilemma where cooperation is enforced by punishing defectors. Society is full of unspoken rules that govern how we interact civilly with one another. It's sometimes frustrating that the rules are tacit, but it couldn't really work any other way. To your point though, there will always be those who use the tacit, emotional nature of the social rules to manipulate others. The "place their nose in the way of other people's fists" as it were.