I don't recommend dating coworkers, I recommend befriending coworkers and cautiously dating their friends. Dating apps work OK if you're average to above avera

I don't recommend dating coworkers, I recommend befriending coworkers and cautiously dating their friends. Dating apps work OK if you're average to above average in attractiveness, writing skills, and flirting, and you can keep your anxiety in check. If you're below average in some of those areas, you need to be in non-romantic group settings so that people can observe you move confidently in space and become attracted to you. That means hobbies. > I don't understand how it's so commonplace for people to go on 10-20 dates Yeah, I guess I was thinking about online dating. The in person stuff is slightly different. If you volunteer for environmental restoration every weekend, you will go on 10-20 "dates" over the course of 50 weekends, while pulling up invasive species next to someone who is a little bored. That will be your first date. If you like each other, you just have to say yes to more opportunities to be with them, and they'll be doing the same, and you'll eventually get to a "real" date. Do your best to look cute before you show up to these events, and get your mental health in order beforehand. Events with physical activity help with both of those things. > I have a hard time reconciling all my feedback with the notion that I'm part of some exceedingly rare group that is undatable. Yeah, no, doesn't sound like you're in that category. From what you're saying it sounds like you're just missing the 10-20 first dates thing.