"I didn't become parent because I think it will selfishly make me happier. I became a parent because I felt I would have something to offer a child and I wanted

"I didn't become parent because I think it will selfishly make me happier. I became a parent because I felt I would have something to offer a child and I wanted to give expression to that." This is an interesting point. Do you not feel that the expression of this desire will make you happier? Did you adopt your child? If not, then how is the creating of a human life in order for you to fulfill your desire to give what you have to offer to a child anything but selfish? Certainly there were kids that existed before that could have benefitted from your gifts. I don't mean to say you should not have had kids for this reason. I think anyone who desires to have a kid and has the means should do so but I don't see anything different in your desire than that of someone who simply wants kids.