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Edit: The comment I replied to has been substantially edited, as has the follow-up reply to me. Thus, for people reading this, it may look like what I have said

by Mz 9y ago

Edit: The comment I replied to has been substantially edited, as has the follow-up reply to me. Thus, for people reading this, it may look like what I have said is "crazy" or reactionary or otherwise bad behavior on my part. I assert this is an additional means to be dismissive and disrespectful of me and I see no reason to try to further engage this individual. No good will come of it. But I am leaving this comment here anyway. --- I was one of the top three graduating students of my high school class. I fully expected to be part of a two career couple. That never happened. Instead, I was a homemaker and full time mom for a lot of years. So I have spent a LOT of time trying to parse how and why my life got so completely flushed down the toilet and did not turn into what I and so many other people expected of it. (One family friend bluntly told me "We all expected you to be a self made millionaire. What the hell happened?") This involved reading quite a lot of research about how and why the lives of men and women turn out differently. We may well see it differently, but that sounds to me like a polite way to trivialize my conclusions. My conclusions have not been drawn in a trivial manner. There has been quite a lot of study involved in drawing them.

weberc2 9y ago
It's not an attempt to trivialize; I'm pointing out that other people have equally strong contrarian feelings, and that they can make the same arguments for their position (and then some). I don't doubt that you've been compulsive about researching the subject (as have I).
- adrienne 9y ago
  Clearly not compulsive enough, as you don't seem to have checked research that disagrees with your biases (like the vast body of work showing that sex-based differences in brains are negligible)
- weberc2 9y ago
  Just saw Mz's edit. For those reading along, I posted initially and then immediately rewrote it for clarity, because I didn't think I did a good job articulating. I didn't think anyone would have seen it, but it probably took me longer than I thought as I'm posting from mobile. My edit was substantial, but my points are the same, so I'm not sure why the parent thinks this is an attempt to dismiss her. (Nor do I know why she thinks I'd try to dismiss her, I have better things to do with my time than plot conspiracies against strangers in the internet...).

by Mz 9y ago

weberc2 9y ago

It's not an attempt to trivialize; I'm pointing out that other people have equally strong contrarian feelings, and that they can make the same arguments for their position (and then some). I don't doubt that you've been compulsive about researching the subject (as have I).

adrienne 9y ago
Clearly not compulsive enough, as you don't seem to have checked research that disagrees with your biases (like the vast body of work showing that sex-based differences in brains are negligible)
weberc2 9y ago
Just saw Mz's edit. For those reading along, I posted initially and then immediately rewrote it for clarity, because I didn't think I did a good job articulating. I didn't think anyone would have seen it, but it probably took me longer than I thought as I'm posting from mobile. My edit was substantial, but my points are the same, so I'm not sure why the parent thinks this is an attempt to dismiss her. (Nor do I know why she thinks I'd try to dismiss her, I have better things to do with my time than plot conspiracies against strangers in the internet...).