I think it's possible to have a shared joy and curiosity without giving anything away. Heck, I would argue that learning how to say "no" in a way that's honest

I think it's possible to have a shared joy and curiosity without giving anything away. Heck, I would argue that learning how to say "no" in a way that's honest but isn't abrasive is a skill that's critical for any person that works in a team. I'm not talking about empty platitudes, usually earnest transparency works really well.