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I think people are reading rather too much into the phrase "sourcing". Read it as "assumed he'd probably wind up marrying a coworker" and the boss in question i
by fenomas 9y ago
I think people are reading rather too much into the phrase "sourcing". Read it as "assumed he'd probably wind up marrying a coworker" and the boss in question is just observing the obvious - workplace marriages are quite common in Japan, especially considering that company employees around that age tend to socialize a lot within the company.
One can think of such things as non-pecuniary benefits of a job but I think you'd be hard pressed to find a boss who's ever considered it in those terms. More likely they're just acting on the "truth universally acknowledged" that young single employees must be in want of a spouse.
(Of course, the reverse of this is one of the ways Japanese companies are rough on women - if you're 23 and single people will tend to assume you're going to marry someone and quit in a few years, and treat you accordingly.)
- patio11 9y agoespecially considering that company employees around that age tend to socialize a lot within the company. Yes. This is by design. You're not just joining a company, you're getting social belonging and a built-in set of drinking buddies. That is such a critical part of the deal, and such a universally acknowledged part of the deal, that it is not routinely described as part of the deal.
- fenomas 9y agoSure, but to some extent this is Japan in a nutshell - joining anything from a university circle to the neighborhood adult volleyball team does tend to come with new drinking buddies, albeit at varying scales. (And having said that, if you're single you can of course expect the volleyball coach to paternally try and set you up with that nice 24 year-old on the team...)
- eric_khun 9y agokinda related, how easy for a foreigners to play in the local volleyball team in Japan? I'm considering to move in Tokyo for a year or more, and would love to find some vball buddies
- fenomas 9y agoI see teams practicing now and then but I don't know how one goes about joining. But if you're eligible and the team has space, I wouldn't think being a foreigner will matter too much.
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- senex 9y agoI work for a global / English-speaking company in Japan. We don't have futsal and basketball instead of vball, but it's pretty easy to get started. PM me if you're interested.
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- SilasX 9y ago>I think people are reading rather too much into the phrase "sourcing". Read it as "assumed he'd probably wind up marrying a coworker" and the boss in question is just observing the obvious - workplace marriages are quite common in Japan, especially considering that company employees around that age tend to socialize a lot within the company. Right, but I also envisioned that they'd be in the awkward position of "hm, but Japanese women won't want a gaijin, obviously ..." and then debating whether they need to call up the "mail order bride" services.