The first step is to understand that the problem does exist, even if it may not be apparent, or even if we can find other, simpler or more comfortable explanati

The first step is to understand that the problem does exist, even if it may not be apparent, or even if we can find other, simpler or more comfortable explanations. That's all my reply could hope for at best. There are many smarter and better people than me offering plenty of detailed analysis and paths to action.