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This is amateur psychology, and it's mostly wrong. Psychology is a real field and writing about what you don't know in this field can do more harm than good. I

This is amateur psychology, and it's mostly wrong. Psychology is a real field and writing about what you don't know in this field can do more harm than good. I stopped at: > Getting anger out requires some physical activity to get the adrenaline to metabolize. This has been disproven. "Letting it out" only leads you to be more aggressive. Maybe at a more appropriate time, but still, it doesn't "calm you down". Time and reflection do that. The bit about "The Aspects of Farmer, The Magi, and the Warrior" seems particularly out of place. It is pure conjecture, and seems arbitrary to me. It's good to know yourself but please refrain from giving general advice based on your personal anecdotal evidence. I'm talking about everything after your own introspection. It seems like helping but it isn't. Edit: Also to anyone reading this, for the love of god, don't take psychological advice from untrained internet strangers. If you find yourself struggling with the same issues, see a therapist. They're good at this stuff.

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eksemplar 9y ago
Anything that divides people into introverts or extroverts is humbug. It's true that some people are more introverted than others in certain situations, but as a general rule, everyone are both things. Preferring to stay home and read a book rather than socialize at a bar is an introverted trait, but dungeon mastering (or even participating) in a role playing event is extroverted. Being unsure what to say at lunch is introverted, owning the tech meeting is extroverted. I mean, its obviously more complicated than this, but the basic rule is that there is no such thing as an introvert, and honestly, as a manager of people with varying degrees of loudness, it's not always the loudest or most social people who are good at bargaining for a raise.
- rimliu 9y ago
  Pretending something does not exist will not make it to go away. Yes, you will hardly find pure introvert or extrovert, but you will find plenty of people not in the middle of the scale and those can be called introverts or extroverts. It's like claiming that gays and straight people do not exist because there are no 100% gay or 100% straight people. Yes introverts do some "extroverted" stuff, and may be even very good at that. What makes them different from extroverts is that extroverts get energised by doing that, and introverts get drained.
  - eksemplar 9y ago
    I'm not really pretending, it's a scientific fact proven empiricaly, but by all means go a head and believe in fairies if you want.
icc97 9y ago
> This has been disproven. "Letting it out" only leads you to be more aggressive. From reading the below article [0] which talks about what you say, the 'letting it out' is e.g. punching a pillow. Perhaps he's wrong about the part where you're actively thinking about the aggression towards the other person, but the advice to go and run or do something physical instead of shouting at the ones you love is definitely a good idea. [0] https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/anger-and-stress-letting-it-all-out/ https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/anger-and-stress-letting-it...
n4r9 9y ago
The article begins "This is a story about myself." It seems clear the author is not trying to expound on modern psychology. They are describing the mental framework that they have found useful to understand their own thoughts and behaviour.

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eksemplar 9y ago

Anything that divides people into introverts or extroverts is humbug. It's true that some people are more introverted than others in certain situations, but as a general rule, everyone are both things. Preferring to stay home and read a book rather than socialize at a bar is an introverted trait, but dungeon mastering (or even participating) in a role playing event is extroverted. Being unsure what to say at lunch is introverted, owning the tech meeting is extroverted. I mean, its obviously more complicated than this, but the basic rule is that there is no such thing as an introvert, and honestly, as a manager of people with varying degrees of loudness, it's not always the loudest or most social people who are good at bargaining for a raise.

rimliu 9y ago
Pretending something does not exist will not make it to go away. Yes, you will hardly find pure introvert or extrovert, but you will find plenty of people not in the middle of the scale and those can be called introverts or extroverts. It's like claiming that gays and straight people do not exist because there are no 100% gay or 100% straight people. Yes introverts do some "extroverted" stuff, and may be even very good at that. What makes them different from extroverts is that extroverts get energised by doing that, and introverts get drained.
- eksemplar 9y ago
  I'm not really pretending, it's a scientific fact proven empiricaly, but by all means go a head and believe in fairies if you want.

icc97 9y ago

> This has been disproven. "Letting it out" only leads you to be more aggressive. From reading the below article [0] which talks about what you say, the 'letting it out' is e.g. punching a pillow. Perhaps he's wrong about the part where you're actively thinking about the aggression towards the other person, but the advice to go and run or do something physical instead of shouting at the ones you love is definitely a good idea. [0] https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/anger-and-stress-letting-it-all-out/ https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/anger-and-stress-letting-it...

n4r9 9y ago

The article begins "This is a story about myself." It seems clear the author is not trying to expound on modern psychology. They are describing the mental framework that they have found useful to understand their own thoughts and behaviour.