I'm confused about whether the "WTF your crap is crap" example is exaggerated or true-to-life. If true, I would leave that job, or at least report to managemen

I'm confused about whether the "WTF your crap is crap" example is exaggerated or true-to-life. If true, I would leave that job, or at least report to management that I'm unwilling to work with that person and be treated like that. If the example is exaggerated, then it confuses the point a bit because it bakes the author's sensitivity into reality for the purpose of the article. Maybe I've just always worked with other sensitive, conflict-avoidant engineers, and not assholes, but the example is way outside of bounds for me. The way to think about a situation like that is in terms of having boundaries, not about ego. Don't take abuse. You don't need a witty comeback. Or, it will come when you stop thinking you need to tolerate abuse. The part about talking with your partner about what works for you in sex is lovely.