I wanted to offer some thoughts to the author of this piece. I don't wish to belittle you or make light of your situation. But I do want to point out a few th

I wanted to offer some thoughts to the author of this piece. I don't wish to belittle you or make light of your situation. But I do want to point out a few things. Foremost, you need to understand that free expression is not illegal and does not necessarily fall under sexual harassment law, most of which deal only with harassment by those in positions of authority against their direct reports. Companies have all kinds of sexual harassment policies they have cooked up but those policies are for protecting the company against lawsuits, not you. There is no legal recourse and probably no HR recourse, either. Annoying cads exist everywhere. How you deal with them is what matters and it doesn't just happen to women and minorities, as much as our culture of identity politics and victimhood would lead us to believe. I'm a white guy (oh so privileged) and have had plenty of horrifying incidents with people whom I have worked with, some to the point where I quit the job I had just to be free from my antagonists, which is exactly what they wanted. What I am trying to tell you is that there are sociopaths and people with Borderline Personality Disorder and they are everywhere in corporate America and waiting for their next victim to walk by. There is no avoiding all of them. All you can do is learn to deal with them in such a way that it does not tear you down psychologically--and yes, sometimes that means getting away from your abuser. I once had a co-worker who had it out for me for no particular reason other than he is an out-and-out asshole seeking to protect his comfy, do-nothing job that my software would eventually have automated out of existence. He would seed distrust and fear about my project behind my back to all the major stakeholders, every meeting I was in with him was nothing but a knife-fight with me defending my team of developers from outrageous allegations, he used every sneaky trick in the book to attack my credibility without once taking a direct, personal jab at me. Despite that, I was completely undermined and ineffective in my role. I talked to my manager, to HR, none of them did a damn thing about this guy. He was absolute poison to that company...crickets. So I know a thing or two about these kinds of issues having been harassed for months on end albeit not in a sexual manner. In another case, there was a VMS administrator at a major healthcare company who didn't want to see his comfy VMS admin job end by my team replacing the crappy, way out of date, COBOL-based shit system that barely worked. He won--I gave up and left that place for greener pastures and that company is still stupidly running that piece of crap system at the cost of millions of dollars and it was so bad that it cost them all their profits in a major line of business. All because of one intractable personality and really nothing else.