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I largely agree with what you're saying. Out of curiosity, what makes you think I don't see the value? I omitted the 'pros' of having children simply because th

• ericb 9y ago
  You didn't list any pros. For people who don't want children, I imagine many don't value the pros, or even see them as pros. You asked specifically to hear from childless folks--usually that type of request is a self-affirmation from someone who has already decided, but wants to buttress their decision. Also, you seemed like you were trying to quantify the decision, but with matters of the heart, usually people just know. I think people who don't want kids actually do ask this question often. There can be spouses or parents who apply tremendous pressure, and the decision is massive, and irreversible.
• ericb 9y ago
  It sounds like you're considering it more than your post indicated. To give you perspective, they are tough to raise, and I found it tough to be an entrepreneur when they are under 4. It totally changes your cash requirements, especially if you do something like buy a house. Entrepreneurship is like having a baby, and might be fulfilling in some similar ways (not love, though!). For me, while they were young, it was easier to work for someone. Now that they sleep, I've saved up and will probably make another run at entrepreneurship. But in terms of success at my day job, I don't feel like they really stopped me, or that any trade off to optimize day job success would have been worth considering.