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I actually wonder whether marriage should have a time limit specified. Its a better fit to reality : people living longer, large proportion divorcing after 5 y

by gord 16y ago

I actually wonder whether marriage should have a time limit specified. Its a better fit to reality : people living longer, large proportion divorcing after 5 years, sequential marriages to different people. "I love you darling, will you spend the next 12 years with me to raise a child together?". This is not purely cynical... I think its so cool when two people who have been married for 15 years decide to celebrate with second marriage ceremony to launch them into the next 15. The time commitment should set the financial arrangements when you divorce - Ending a life long marriage might split 50/50 whereas ending a 10yr marriage might confer a 15% mix of wealth shared.

gnaritas 16y ago
> I actually wonder whether marriage should have a time limit specified. Some places do, down to a matter of hours. It's a slick way around prostitution laws and moral qualms.
- elai 16y ago
  A lot of people take that kind of 'marriage' as one big stinking ball of hypocrisy and generally don't like it.
  - gnaritas 16y ago
    A lot of people don't like a lot of things, so what? It still happens. When the laws of a country are based on religion and pre-marital sex is not allowed, solutions like this are bound to happen; it is inevitable.
tomjen3 16y ago
How would that work when they find out that they want to spend the next 10 years together? I ask because my grandparents have been together for 50 years, my parents for 20, and I am pretty certain that both marriages will last to the death.
- elai 16y ago
  "I think its so cool when two people who have been married for 15 years decide to celebrate with second marriage ceremony to launch them into the next 15." You just have another ;)
gvb 16y ago
Ummm, it takes a minimum of 18 years to raise a child. If you continue to "raise" the child through college, add at least another four. If you have more than one child, you hit the timer reset every time. Getting married to raise a child is essentially a lifetime commitment, at least for one of the two getting married.

by gord 16y ago

gnaritas 16y ago

> I actually wonder whether marriage should have a time limit specified. Some places do, down to a matter of hours. It's a slick way around prostitution laws and moral qualms.

elai 16y ago
A lot of people take that kind of 'marriage' as one big stinking ball of hypocrisy and generally don't like it.
- gnaritas 16y ago
  A lot of people don't like a lot of things, so what? It still happens. When the laws of a country are based on religion and pre-marital sex is not allowed, solutions like this are bound to happen; it is inevitable.

tomjen3 16y ago

How would that work when they find out that they want to spend the next 10 years together? I ask because my grandparents have been together for 50 years, my parents for 20, and I am pretty certain that both marriages will last to the death.

elai 16y ago
"I think its so cool when two people who have been married for 15 years decide to celebrate with second marriage ceremony to launch them into the next 15." You just have another ;)

gvb 16y ago

Ummm, it takes a minimum of 18 years to raise a child. If you continue to "raise" the child through college, add at least another four. If you have more than one child, you hit the timer reset every time. Getting married to raise a child is essentially a lifetime commitment, at least for one of the two getting married.