Listening and reasoning with them and not taking drastic action, such as having them committed asap was what lead to the full break from reality. For several mo

Listening and reasoning with them and not taking drastic action, such as having them committed asap was what lead to the full break from reality. For several months my family listened to stories of unjust childhood and traumas, bullying etc. We all knew about those events, but none of them were that dramatic, they were mostly minor stuff, somebody saying something bad or maybe a childhood fight. And then the icing on the cake, two or three months convincing us they were trans-gender. Which included buying new clothes, transforming their look and even talking about surgery. This experience convinces me only that if someone has these kind of issues, you should not hear them out or try to understand, but other type of help is needed. If we acted in time, a lot of of what happened afterward could have been avoided. Being soft and understanding helps no one. And I really regret that me and other family members didn't know enough about mental illness at the time. Btw. their previous diagnosis was borderline disorder, which is why they have a skewed perception of them vs world, nobody understands, everybody is against them etc. Now it seems they are also possibly bipolar or schizoaffective. Really difficult to deal with.