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I think this skips out probably what is the biggest hurdle for "nerds"; you can't trick your crushes into liking you back by being a nice friend to them.

• thisisit 9y ago
  This. One of my biggest takeaways from the book by Mark Manson - Models.
  • david38 9y ago
    There are many books on the subject, Models is a good one. I don't see why anyone would waste time trying to write some web page about why nerds in particular have a hard time dating. Social awkwardness is a well covered subject in this and many other books. Even better, it's covered by people who have more than theory to back their ideas.
• stared 9y ago
  Things related to friendzone will go in part 3. In short: no, just being nice is not enough (cf: no one will hire you just because haven't stolen anything). Though, the most common thing that is missing is not taking risks - most of the time nerd fail to ask question (and of course, rejection is possible - but still better to be stuck in a limbo).
  • Vanit 9y ago
    Its not even that, its disingenuous because you're being their friend in the hopes you'll get a payout.
    • stared 9y ago
      I think we are talking about two different phenomena. (You mention a sneaky way how to get into a relationship, I mentioned lack of communication.)