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It's a shame in a way that mobile internet has become so ubiquitous, and that people tend to therefore spend so much of their time on the beach looking at their
by jasonkester 9y ago
It's a shame in a way that mobile internet has become so ubiquitous, and that people tend to therefore spend so much of their time on the beach looking at their phone.
One of the nice things about being away is that you're away. That you're forced out of your routine, unable to keep up with the same day-to-day stuff as usual, and cut off from your friends. It forces you to make new friends.
Travel for me used to be a good hack to overcome a natural tendency toward introversion. At some point, after not speaking to a human for a few days, I would go in to Emergency Survival Social Mode, where I had to strike up a conversation with the person at the next table right that minute just to preserve my sanity. And nearly every time I'd find that that person was going through the same thing and was thus happy to chat about whatever for a while.
That's a lot harder to do now, when everybody sitting alone at a table has their phone out, facebooking away with their friends at home as per normal.
I don't know what the solution will be. Hopefully the pendulum will swing back and people will realize that it's nice to disconnect for real from time to time. Especially when there is real sand between their toes and a real sunset going on in front of them (and a real girl sitting at the next table).
- frik 9y agoHow about taking photos on scene, and post some pics later (taxi, hotel, etc). When your family is several time zones away it time doesn't matter that much anyway.
- owebmaster 9y agoBecause people want instant feedback to get happy.
- frik 9y agoyou missed the point, when you are several time zones away, your family and friends probably sleep while you are awake and active. sure, when you are near by you might be interested in instant chit-chat
- owebmaster 9y agoYeah what I mean is not that you will receive instant feedback (and thus instant happiness) but is that what people are looking for. Likes from strange people seems even more common than from family and friends anyway.
- aaron695 9y agoPoint is family and friends don't care (Or even subliminally dislike you for it) But the person has no idea, hence they post oblivious to whether there are real people who actually want to see it. They post instantly, assume everyone likes it, instant hit achieved. Due to politeness (And the subliminal voting circle) people like back at some stage. The arguable point is whether the superficial voting circle of Facebook works and makes people happy or it's a drug we get dependent on and just need.
- owebmaster 9y agoIt is so sad that I can't articulate myself enough :( Thanks man, you said what I wanted to but couldn't! :D
- rimliu 9y agoAre you sure you have a tendency for introversion? I am introvert and I have no need for "Emergency Survival Social Mode". On the contrary, now and then I want to get away from and by with just myself for a few days.
- jasonkester 9y agoHave you tried the thing I'm talking about? As in, traveling through Southeast Asia for several months by yourself and hitting spells of over a week at a time where you honestly haven't spoken to another human being except to order food? It takes a pretty dedicated introvert to not need even a little human company after a while.
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- psyc 9y agoI'm very introverted, and I haven't had an in-person conversation in almost 2 years. It does eventually become the only priority, like when you're starving, or badly craving a cigarette.
- barrkel 9y agoI've gone for months at a time not talking to anyone and have never found myself needing to strike up conversation; normally, I would be busy thinking and any conversation would be mundane and irrelevant. I've toured alone by motorcycle a few times, and similarly, in the evening, I just want to get my food.