> This is vastly-overinflated risk, and honestly part of the mess we're in is due to people treating suitors as potential rapists or axe murderers. Being caref

> This is vastly-overinflated risk, and honestly part of the mess we're in is due to people treating suitors as potential rapists or axe murderers. Being careful who you socialize with is smart no matter what. > This sort of brush-off means that I wouldn't call it a brush off, it's an invitation to respond (or not) without further pressure or expectations. > a) you're going to be surprised when they show up again Yes! Delightfully surprised! > b) they're definitely going to be more annoyed when they find out you ghosted them. I've never had a bad experience with it. Most people who do decided to get back to you after an extended absence have a pretty good sense of humor about the situation. Ghosted is the last thing I'd feel if someone's last message to me was "I'd love to hear from you!"