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You mention that this is anecdotal, anyway, but stress to yourself that it is anecdotal. You sound depressed and you mention that social interaction might be t

You mention that this is anecdotal, anyway, but stress to yourself that it is anecdotal. You sound depressed and you mention that social interaction might be the cause, but is it not possible that you are finding your work unfulfilling, that's causing depression and the rest follows? I only say this because I've worked long stretches more or less alone with limited social interaction (didn't have a wife around) and didn't suffer any of those symptoms, but that's an anecdote for you. I did suffer those symptoms when depressed, though, and that didn't take solitude. Some people are very happy with solitude and there's no hard rule that it affects everyone the same.

rubicon33 9y ago
Yes, I would caution anyone who reads my post from drawing a 1:1 correlation with their life. That has strictly been my experience and even as such, I of course can't be 100% sure about the origins of my current situation. It's a bit of a chicken/egg situation. Yes, right now I struggle to find fulfillment in my work. But did that develop because of solitude which induced depression or did the lack of fulfillment develop naturally and cause the depression itself? It's difficult to say for sure, even as the person experiencing it. I can only speak to what I know of myself and my situation. I was a developer for ~3 years before I started WFH, and never felt like this. The product I worked on then, wasn't any more interesting than the current one. It's true though that the first few years of work carried with them a novelty and enjoyment that was bound to fade. But I think my happiness then was more than just that. Even off days felt successful if I was interacting with the team. > Some people are very happy with solitude and there's no hard rule that it affects everyone the same. Definitely agree. We're all different, and some people surely do thrive in this kind of environment. Interestingly, I would have told you I was one of those people. I'm naturally an introvert so this lifestyle was very comfortable at the outset. Too much of a good thing though...
- ObeyTheGuts 9y ago
  I was dat solitude guy, maybe 10 years alone with just rare random interactions, but then i found people that are on same page as me and oh boy! Massive difference! I feel reborn, problem was that i prefere be alone than with people who have different world wiev as they just suck ur energy and piss u off, while once i found people on ma page it was pure joy.

rubicon33 9y ago

Yes, I would caution anyone who reads my post from drawing a 1:1 correlation with their life. That has strictly been my experience and even as such, I of course can't be 100% sure about the origins of my current situation. It's a bit of a chicken/egg situation. Yes, right now I struggle to find fulfillment in my work. But did that develop because of solitude which induced depression or did the lack of fulfillment develop naturally and cause the depression itself? It's difficult to say for sure, even as the person experiencing it. I can only speak to what I know of myself and my situation. I was a developer for ~3 years before I started WFH, and never felt like this. The product I worked on then, wasn't any more interesting than the current one. It's true though that the first few years of work carried with them a novelty and enjoyment that was bound to fade. But I think my happiness then was more than just that. Even off days felt successful if I was interacting with the team. > Some people are very happy with solitude and there's no hard rule that it affects everyone the same. Definitely agree. We're all different, and some people surely do thrive in this kind of environment. Interestingly, I would have told you I was one of those people. I'm naturally an introvert so this lifestyle was very comfortable at the outset. Too much of a good thing though...

ObeyTheGuts 9y ago
I was dat solitude guy, maybe 10 years alone with just rare random interactions, but then i found people that are on same page as me and oh boy! Massive difference! I feel reborn, problem was that i prefere be alone than with people who have different world wiev as they just suck ur energy and piss u off, while once i found people on ma page it was pure joy.