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Yes absolutely. We have control of our actions. Emotions we have no control over. Or rather, that should not be the focus of our intentions. But we can control
by unabst 9y ago
Yes absolutely. We have control of our actions. Emotions we have no control over. Or rather, that should not be the focus of our intentions. But we can control what we do about them, and we can connect the dots between our actions and our emotions when deciding what to do next.
And also there is hardly ever anything wrong with our emotions... I don't buy into negative emotions either. They're what you make of them -- after the fact.
I randomly came across this a while ago, and it remains the best example I have:
https://medium.com/@sugarpirate/i-am-still-learning-f61c765d657c https://medium.com/@sugarpirate/i-am-still-learning-f61c765d...
> And I’m going to keep being afraid.
She talks about being afraid, except, she's no longer afraid of fear.
At which point, what is fear to you? What is fear?
The emotions, and the facts, remain. What has changed is you. This would not be possible if you = emotion. And it demonstrates how even fear is not negative. It's only negative if it leads to negative outcomes, which require your action.
When we are young, emotions become us. Someone takes your toy, and you cry. Maybe in your teens you punched someone in the face. But as we age, hopefully, these things happen less often. But you probably still get upset. The difference is in the control you have over your actions. And with this, our emotions seem to mature and sort themselves out also.