I think many of the points you're making are in the article. Emotional regulation and the corresponding process models are staples of at least a few forms of th

I think many of the points you're making are in the article. Emotional regulation and the corresponding process models are staples of at least a few forms of therapy. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_self-regulation#Process_model https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_self-regulation#Proc... Ideally, we should all be able to regulate our reaction to our own emotions, but in practice some people aren't as good at it as others for various reasons.