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I wrote a longer answer, but I'll shorten it to: it's not about the adrenaline fix. At some point, your hobbies/passions (hopefully) become an integral part of

I wrote a longer answer, but I'll shorten it to: it's not about the adrenaline fix. At some point, your hobbies/passions (hopefully) become an integral part of who you are. Especially ones like this with expertise and life-long pursuits. The rest is balancing act that you hope to get right.

Chris2048 9y ago
> become an integral part of who you are You can say that about anything. Smoking, alcohol, racism, leftism ( jk :-D ) But is identity investment in something life-risking really compatible with reasonable parenting? that's the question.
- dragonwriter 9y ago
  > But is identity investment in something life-risking really compatible with reasonable parenting? Every human activity is life-risking (as is inactivity.)
  - Chris2048 9y ago
    In what sense? In that some, possibly trivial, risk is involved?
- betenoire 9y ago
  That's the balancing part, no? Nothing is risk-free, and the implied dichotomy is misleading. You can be a wreckless fool without the dangerous hobbies. Also implied is that we can even agree what "reasonable parenting" means.
  - Chris2048 9y ago
    > Nothing is risk-free You can determine a threshold though? > can even agree what "reasonable parenting" means. So much as we can agree what reasonable <anything> means - which we can, as there are all sorts of laws regulating various aspects of life. We can, to some degree, legislate "reasonable driving", or "reasonable flying".
    - betenoire 9y ago
      The threshold is whatever one feels is responsible. We are the only ones that know ourselves. I know when I feel like I'm pushing my boundaries. I really don't know what other people's boundaries are, and that's why I defer to their personal judgement. I don't think there is a standard here unless we want to draw the line at the painfully obvious. But the danger doesn't lie in the painfully obvious, it lies in the gray area where we all differ. And "reasonable" only ever seems obvious in retrospect.
      - Chris2048 9y ago
        But that's a principle that comes from personal choice. When you have kids, there's a third party involved. > I don't think there is a standard here Has such a proposal been investigated? > And "reasonable" only ever seems obvious in retrospect. I disagree.
        betenoire 9y ago
        Give me what a reasonable parent does in a car. Do they turn around and talk to their kids? Do they pass a bottle back there for the baby? Do they change the radio station? After than, I have questions about reasonable parenting when hiking in the foothills. How much water should I be required to bring? I could go on and on regarding the gray areas of life. You have the answers?!? Please share.
        Chris2048 9y ago
        > You have the answers?!? Please share. Did I claim to? Anyone that dares suggests standards of safety should exist, must be omniscient first? And yes,I think those things should be regulated too. To extent that they practically can, they are - you can be cautioned for not driving with due care and attention.
        betenoire 9y ago
        You originally asked me if "identity investment in something life-risking really compatible with reasonable parenting?" I've tried to show that's not a fair question since we don't agree what is reasonable parenting or what is risk. But yes, it is compatible because it is the only way. Consider this, until recently, conception through birth was quite likely to kill you. It didn't get much riskier than having kids, yet people still chose to have them. Over and over. So yes, risk is what life is made of.
  - hota_mazi 9y ago
    > Nothing is risk-free, and the implied dichotomy is misleading Ironic, since by using the term "risk free", you are the one implying a dichotomy: either something has risk or it doesn't. It's technically true but that's unhelpful, since risk is not a binary value: it's a spectrum. Certain hobbies and jobs are demonstrably more risky than others.

Chris2048 9y ago

> become an integral part of who you are You can say that about anything. Smoking, alcohol, racism, leftism ( jk :-D ) But is identity investment in something life-risking really compatible with reasonable parenting? that's the question.

dragonwriter 9y ago
> But is identity investment in something life-risking really compatible with reasonable parenting? Every human activity is life-risking (as is inactivity.)
- Chris2048 9y ago
  In what sense? In that some, possibly trivial, risk is involved?
betenoire 9y ago
That's the balancing part, no? Nothing is risk-free, and the implied dichotomy is misleading. You can be a wreckless fool without the dangerous hobbies. Also implied is that we can even agree what "reasonable parenting" means.
- Chris2048 9y ago
  > Nothing is risk-free You can determine a threshold though? > can even agree what "reasonable parenting" means. So much as we can agree what reasonable <anything> means - which we can, as there are all sorts of laws regulating various aspects of life. We can, to some degree, legislate "reasonable driving", or "reasonable flying".
  - betenoire 9y ago
    The threshold is whatever one feels is responsible. We are the only ones that know ourselves. I know when I feel like I'm pushing my boundaries. I really don't know what other people's boundaries are, and that's why I defer to their personal judgement. I don't think there is a standard here unless we want to draw the line at the painfully obvious. But the danger doesn't lie in the painfully obvious, it lies in the gray area where we all differ. And "reasonable" only ever seems obvious in retrospect.
    - Chris2048 9y ago
      But that's a principle that comes from personal choice. When you have kids, there's a third party involved. > I don't think there is a standard here Has such a proposal been investigated? > And "reasonable" only ever seems obvious in retrospect. I disagree.
      - betenoire 9y ago
        Give me what a reasonable parent does in a car. Do they turn around and talk to their kids? Do they pass a bottle back there for the baby? Do they change the radio station? After than, I have questions about reasonable parenting when hiking in the foothills. How much water should I be required to bring? I could go on and on regarding the gray areas of life. You have the answers?!? Please share.
        Chris2048 9y ago
        > You have the answers?!? Please share. Did I claim to? Anyone that dares suggests standards of safety should exist, must be omniscient first? And yes,I think those things should be regulated too. To extent that they practically can, they are - you can be cautioned for not driving with due care and attention.
        betenoire 9y ago
        You originally asked me if "identity investment in something life-risking really compatible with reasonable parenting?" I've tried to show that's not a fair question since we don't agree what is reasonable parenting or what is risk. But yes, it is compatible because it is the only way. Consider this, until recently, conception through birth was quite likely to kill you. It didn't get much riskier than having kids, yet people still chose to have them. Over and over. So yes, risk is what life is made of.
- hota_mazi 9y ago
  > Nothing is risk-free, and the implied dichotomy is misleading Ironic, since by using the term "risk free", you are the one implying a dichotomy: either something has risk or it doesn't. It's technically true but that's unhelpful, since risk is not a binary value: it's a spectrum. Certain hobbies and jobs are demonstrably more risky than others.