I hear where you're coming from, in my teens I competed in FPS leagues and travelled to meatspace tourneys and had a riot doing so. To continue enjoying the co

I hear where you're coming from, in my teens I competed in FPS leagues and travelled to meatspace tourneys and had a riot doing so. To continue enjoying the competition aspect I had to conciously cultivate a mentality of responsible gaming similar to one of responsible drinking. IE, don't do it alone (physically, online is alone), don't do it to excess, and don't let it be the center of your life. Now when I'm feeling competitive I have friends over for a Rock Band/Halo/GoW night, or plan a LAN party for some oldschool FPS action. Also for quick and dirty LAN action on a whim, grab some buddies and take over a net cafe. You could be doing the same at home but it's the social aspect that helps keep it balanced. I guess the short answer is, like djhworld says, budget your time. Fun and work are both important, make time for each and enjoy!