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Women seem to have it a bit harder when it comes to everything, including dating. However, one thing I did when I started looking for an actual partner was to j
by sidlls 9y ago
Women seem to have it a bit harder when it comes to everything, including dating. However, one thing I did when I started looking for an actual partner was to jot down what I was looking for (my "standards") and really evaluate how realistic they were given my appearance, social status, education and personality. It has a rough analogy to how employers in tech complain of a "talent deficit" when in reality it's a "talent deficit at the price we're willing to pay": there is a "partner deficit" in some way in the sense of "deficit at the standards we apply."
Not to say obstacles and actual deficits don't exist, but I've found that often when concerns about partner suitability come up the standards involved aren't given as much attention as they merit, or that frequently there are standards being applied the person isn't aware of or doesn't want to admit to.
- marcoperaza 9y ago>Women seem to have it a bit harder when it comes to everything, including dating. In what world is this? Younger women are outperforming men in just about every metric, economic and social. They're also legally privileged, in family law and criminal sentencing. And despite all this, they still have half of the men in the country advocating for even more special privileges for women.
- sidlls 9y agoIn the real world where negative cultural stereotypes about body/image issues are more pronounced for them, and where they are at much higher risk of sex abuse in childhood, rape (at just about any age, and especially by their boyfriends and male acquaintances), harassment, and employment discrimination.