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> these are women who want to wait for a partner, someone who will go all in and plan for a future. Men who just wait will end up waiting for a long time, mayb
by spodek 9y ago
> these are women who want to wait for a partner, someone who will go all in and plan for a future.
Men who just wait will end up waiting for a long time, maybe forever, too. Equality also means responsibility. Today, finding a partner means taking initiative, not just waiting, for both sexes.
- urahara 9y agoSure, but women still get punished for initiative due to long standing cultural norms. For women from countries with strongly conservative cultures it can be times harder to not only find a suitable potential partner, but also establish a contact with him without scaring him away with initiative.
- guskel 9y agoWelcome to the dating world for men.
- fastball 9y agoI've had a lot of gal friends of mine talk about guys, and have literally heard the phrase "I would probably date him, but he's too forward". Ugh.
- urahara 9y agoThese 2 worlds are very different. If you meant that men are also punished for initiative in some similar way - no, general social/cultural contexts and punishments on the dating market are completely different for men and women.
- khedoros1 9y agoI strongly prefer women who take the initiative, because there've been too many times that I misinterpreted some signal as being indicative of interest. I decided that the friendships were more important than the possibility of a romantic relationship, so I stopped asking for a long time. When the reverse happened, it never meant the end of a friendship. Things just tended to go smoother. I don't know if most men just decide "screw those friendships" and go for the gusto, or what, but that never made sense to me.