Anytime they say that -- what they really mean is that they only way for you to "improve" is to GTFO. Another (not so gentle reminder) to follow this poster's

Anytime they say that -- what they really mean is that they only way for you to "improve" is to GTFO. Another (not so gentle reminder) to follow this poster's advice, and make sure to always have a decent emergency fund saved up, at all times. So that when something like this does happen -- and it has happened to nearly all the best people I know, at one point or another, that they are told, in one way or another (either directly, in "secret code", aka PIP): "Look, we don't think this is working out" -- you can be prepared to say the natural, adult, self-assured thing: "Well, I'm sorry to hear that. Do you want me to agree to separate from you, or do you want to separate from me -- and if so, on what terms"? Because really, no one has time for soul-killing head games like PIP. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14776772 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14776772