I don't think there's anything wrong with calling a specific flight attendant who is female a stewardess. It's wrong to call the entire cabin crew "stewardesses

I don't think there's anything wrong with calling a specific flight attendant who is female a stewardess. It's wrong to call the entire cabin crew "stewardesses" because there are some male (although not the majority), and thus it's gendering a job unfairly. Purser, steward, etc. are part of the actual titles on some airlines, as a type of rank/position. I'd care more about the individual upgrade to "flight attendant" vs. "steward/stewardess" based on level of professionalism if they were actually competent and professional, which is not particularly supported by the evidence on US domestic airlines. Flight attendant or cabin crew is more convenient to use when referring to groups, still. (Crew chief or loadmaster are the true professionals in this space...)