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No, you don't. With that level of paranoia, you could say that you shouldn't drive anywhere, because you might get into an accident.

by s73ver 9y ago

tbrownaw 9y ago
I've heard of people who refuse to ever be alone with anyone of the opposite gender. IIRC they were megachurch pastors who had legitimate reason to fear that even a hint of an accusation would be a career-ending event.
- danieltillett 9y ago
  I think Pence does this - refuses to have private meetings with women because of the risks.
  - monocasa 9y ago
    He got that from Pat Robertson.
  - Sleeep 9y ago
    No, Mike Pence does it for religious reasons, to avoid the abstract possibility of sexual temptation and to further the idea of men and women having separate roles in life. It's a popular practice among evangelicals (and other conservative religious groups, like fundamentalist Muslims and orthodox Jews). It's known as the Billy Graham rule. He also doesn't go to events where alcohol is being served without his wife; she will presumably protect him from any loose women. Also, as far as I remember he only mentioned meals, not meetings in general. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Billy_Graham_rule https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Billy_Graham_rule
danieltillett 9y ago
Well some people are paranoid, but that is not the point I was making :) When I used to be a professor I would refuse to have "closed door" meetings with any student (male or female) on my own because the risk of a false accusation was just too high - I saw too many careers ruined by crazy students [1]. If a student wanted a private meeting with me over some issue (99.9% of the time it was about their marks) I would drag in a colleague. 1. If you think I am joking I managed to avoid getting caught up into two legals cases brought by disgruntled students. In one of the cases I was the only academic staff member in the whole department that was not accused. If I was a VC I would be very concerned about having a private meeting with any founder I didn’t know well.
CryoLogic 9y ago
One of my closest friends in college was accused of rape by a girl in his class. She said on her way home from a frat party he raped her. My friend was arrested, and the whole campus had posters of him up. Eventually the girl said she lied and just wanted attention. After that, she got off without anything but a warning - but my friend would go around school and people would cuss him out and vandalize his things and eventually he went from a 3rd year CS student to dropping out and now lives with his parents and has deep depression (it's been 5 years?). No one ever did anything to help him, the girl never got any penalty and it ruined his life.

No, you don't. With that level of paranoia, you could say that you shouldn't drive anywhere, because you might get into an accident.

by s73ver 9y ago

No, you don't. With that level of paranoia, you could say that you shouldn't drive anywhere, because you might get into an accident.

tbrownaw 9y ago

I've heard of people who refuse to ever be alone with anyone of the opposite gender. IIRC they were megachurch pastors who had legitimate reason to fear that even a hint of an accusation would be a career-ending event.

danieltillett 9y ago
I think Pence does this - refuses to have private meetings with women because of the risks.
- monocasa 9y ago
  He got that from Pat Robertson.
- Sleeep 9y ago
  No, Mike Pence does it for religious reasons, to avoid the abstract possibility of sexual temptation and to further the idea of men and women having separate roles in life. It's a popular practice among evangelicals (and other conservative religious groups, like fundamentalist Muslims and orthodox Jews). It's known as the Billy Graham rule. He also doesn't go to events where alcohol is being served without his wife; she will presumably protect him from any loose women. Also, as far as I remember he only mentioned meals, not meetings in general. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Billy_Graham_rule https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Billy_Graham_rule

danieltillett 9y ago

Well some people are paranoid, but that is not the point I was making :) When I used to be a professor I would refuse to have "closed door" meetings with any student (male or female) on my own because the risk of a false accusation was just too high - I saw too many careers ruined by crazy students [1]. If a student wanted a private meeting with me over some issue (99.9% of the time it was about their marks) I would drag in a colleague. 1. If you think I am joking I managed to avoid getting caught up into two legals cases brought by disgruntled students. In one of the cases I was the only academic staff member in the whole department that was not accused. If I was a VC I would be very concerned about having a private meeting with any founder I didn’t know well.

CryoLogic 9y ago

One of my closest friends in college was accused of rape by a girl in his class. She said on her way home from a frat party he raped her. My friend was arrested, and the whole campus had posters of him up. Eventually the girl said she lied and just wanted attention. After that, she got off without anything but a warning - but my friend would go around school and people would cuss him out and vandalize his things and eventually he went from a 3rd year CS student to dropping out and now lives with his parents and has deep depression (it's been 5 years?). No one ever did anything to help him, the girl never got any penalty and it ruined his life.