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Monogamy isn't dead as the author seems to imply by the falling marriage rates. Many people I know are not married but are in 10+ year long-term monogamous rel
by pyrrhotech 9y ago
Monogamy isn't dead as the author seems to imply by the falling marriage rates. Many people I know are not married but are in 10+ year long-term monogamous relationships (myself included). We don't ever plan to get married because I don't like the government telling me what to do and how our assets must be split in the case we decide to break up (though we never plan to). We also are vehemently anti-religious and would never support an institution like marriage for that reason either.
I personally don't want to have children because my life is fulfilling as it is and I don't want extra distractions when there is no void to fill, but I think this notion of "illegitimacy" is very outdated and should be retired.
I think a lot of the long term economic and population concerns will be solved by workplace automation and biotechnology revolutions in human lifespan respectively, so they are largely overblown. I also don't think a future child-raising industry where children are raised together in government sponsored and supervised systems would be as dystopian as depicted in Brave New World.
- pavel_lishin 9y ago> We don't ever plan to get married because I don't like the government telling me what to do What about the government telling other people what to do about your relationship? If one of you were seriously hurt, would the hospital accept the other's instructions as a medical or legal proxy, etc?
- abfan1127 9y agoI have power of attorney over my dad, in the event a decisions needs to be made.
- paulryanrogers 9y agoDid you mean to say "over to"? If so then what happens when your father is gone?
- schwap 9y ago> We also are vehemently anti-religious and would never support an institution like marriage for that reason either. Just curious, do civil unions not exist where you are? I kind of assumed in my mind they were a pretty normal thing at this point.
- rmrm 9y agoIf you all did split and there was a dispute between you too, the government (courts) are still how things would get settled, no? Marriage I believe is just a form of contract. I believe you can write you own binding legal marriage contract that can specify whatever you would like. As a nonreligious married person, that's what I consider marriage to be. A legal framework for deciding these things. Not having one just means things won't be well defined, but the adjudication process is still similar it seems to me.
- abfan1127 9y agomarriage in a legal context is a very specific type of contract with terms that are not negotiable.
- rmrm 9y agoregarding property, the addition of a prenuptial or postnuptial rider to the main marriage contract makes it quite flexible and negotiable. I guess without you using more words, I won't understand what the actual specific concern is. Without the contract of some sort in place, its not so different than operating a business without a contract. You may think you know the outcome of an interaction, but without a contract its completely unknown in actuality.