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Literally 15 minutes ago I went to the neighbor behind my house [who complained in writing to me today] and apologized for letting construction workers work pas

by verelo 9y ago

Literally 15 minutes ago I went to the neighbor behind my house [who complained in writing to me today] and apologized for letting construction workers work past 7pm in my backyard. I knew working past 7 was wrong, but no one had said anything and the project is behind schedule...so i let it slide. Today i had to go back and acknowledge that I was wrong to let that happen and that it won't happen again. I first wrote a note, but opted to deliver the message in person as they were home [also handed them the note at the end of it as it had my phone number and email on it should they need me]. At the end of the day, i think I've turned what was potentially the beginning of a bad situation into something that brought us closer together and more likely to communicate effectively in the future. Edit: One thing some people are saying further down is regarding admissions of guilt and i forgot to touch on that but it's clearly what I did here... I think we live in a society that is often scared that doing the right thing [often in the form of apologizing] will get us in trouble. Plenty of times this holds true, but i think if we all did it more often it might be for the greater good, plus sometimes getting in trouble teaches us a valuable lesson. Doing the right thing should be your priority, but when you mess up I feel it's very important to correct it or you will often suffer small but longer lasting side-effects [stress, bad relationships, etc].

codyb 9y ago
Similarly to your seemingly effective quick nip in the butt, when it comes to the other end of the spectrum where you're the one who has a problem I've always found that being open, sincere, and forward quickly tends to be the best solution. Whether it's something as simple as someone humming at their chair in an open office layout or something a bit more complex such as you and your neighbors situation, presenting how feel in a clear and less emotional way always works out better than bottling up your feelings until one party blows up. People, for their part, seem to be genuinely reasonable and understanding when given the opportunity.
- tisdy 9y ago
  It's "nip in the bud" EDIT: as in, cut off the flower bud before it blooms
  - m-j-fox 9y ago
    Ha! Now I know.
  - sitharus 9y ago
    And for some extra context, this is a horticultural practice to improve yield by forcing resources away from flowering and fruiting. This could be to produce fewer larger fruit or to encourage plant growth.

by verelo 9y ago

codyb 9y ago

Similarly to your seemingly effective quick nip in the butt, when it comes to the other end of the spectrum where you're the one who has a problem I've always found that being open, sincere, and forward quickly tends to be the best solution. Whether it's something as simple as someone humming at their chair in an open office layout or something a bit more complex such as you and your neighbors situation, presenting how feel in a clear and less emotional way always works out better than bottling up your feelings until one party blows up. People, for their part, seem to be genuinely reasonable and understanding when given the opportunity.

tisdy 9y ago
It's "nip in the bud" EDIT: as in, cut off the flower bud before it blooms
- m-j-fox 9y ago
  Ha! Now I know.
- sitharus 9y ago
  And for some extra context, this is a horticultural practice to improve yield by forcing resources away from flowering and fruiting. This could be to produce fewer larger fruit or to encourage plant growth.