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Except people can be generally shitty to you for most of your life regardless of your race or gender or any other label, so one more experience of a person bein

by daenz 9y ago

Except people can be generally shitty to you for most of your life regardless of your race or gender or any other label, so one more experience of a person being shitty isn't evidence of any of those things. It's what the parent post meant about "control experiences." There's no accurate baseline to judge true prejudice vs general terribleness, because it's all being viewed through the lens of oppression. From people who play the race or gender card, I cannot recall ever reading about them ever blaming any experience on people just being baseline terrible, even though "privileged" people experience that baseline terribleness every day, but have nothing politically correct to blame it on (speaking for myself, nor would I want to blame it on anything besides human nature).

burkaman 9y ago
> I cannot recall ever reading about them ever blaming any experience on people just being baseline terrible I mean, that's not really newsworthy. "I experience a lot of racism, but today someone was a dick to me for a racially neutral reason." It's hard to imagine someone being motivated to write this story, since it's such an obvious fact of life. I hope you don't think that people who talk about racism believe that every negative event in their life was solely caused by racism. Have you discussed this stuff with any women or non-white people? I find it's a lot easier to understand when you're having a friendly conversation rather than reading an angry blog post.
qb45 9y ago
> Except people can be generally shitty to you for most of your life regardless of your race or gender or any other label There is even more to it: people can be just randomly shitty to you and use your gender to carry out the shittiness simply because you react to it. Female programmer: you'll never be a real programmer, male programmer: you'll never be a real man. The thing that matters is your personal insecurity, not the attacker's bias against any gender. Add the fact that some people are really allergic to others complaining about being oppressed for no discernible reason and you are on a straight way to some very unpleasant life experience.

by daenz 9y ago

burkaman 9y ago

> I cannot recall ever reading about them ever blaming any experience on people just being baseline terrible I mean, that's not really newsworthy. "I experience a lot of racism, but today someone was a dick to me for a racially neutral reason." It's hard to imagine someone being motivated to write this story, since it's such an obvious fact of life. I hope you don't think that people who talk about racism believe that every negative event in their life was solely caused by racism. Have you discussed this stuff with any women or non-white people? I find it's a lot easier to understand when you're having a friendly conversation rather than reading an angry blog post.

qb45 9y ago

> Except people can be generally shitty to you for most of your life regardless of your race or gender or any other label There is even more to it: people can be just randomly shitty to you and use your gender to carry out the shittiness simply because you react to it. Female programmer: you'll never be a real programmer, male programmer: you'll never be a real man. The thing that matters is your personal insecurity, not the attacker's bias against any gender. Add the fact that some people are really allergic to others complaining about being oppressed for no discernible reason and you are on a straight way to some very unpleasant life experience.