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Again, I'm not advocating for one scheme or another. I'm telling you what the current reality is in the United States. Other countries have different norms for
by linkregister 9y ago
Again, I'm not advocating for one scheme or another. I'm telling you what the current reality is in the United States. Other countries have different norms for this. Other things done in the U.S., such as wearing shorts, are considered deeply offensive in other countries. When in those countries, I don't wear shorts.
Using non-human animals as a benchmark is not going to help you in any way. The scope of this discussion is humans in the United States.
You are permitted to disagree, but this doesn't change reality. The arbitrary nature of your treatment is due to the tolerance of the "nice" library. The "psycho bitch" (way to promote tolerance, dude!) head librarian was also thinking of her own welfare and ability to concentrate on her duties.
Please also recognize that most of the poor in the United States do have access to soap and water. I dispute that anyone making the median household income is middle-class or upper class.
I feel for you and your circumstances. You do appear to care about how other people's behavior affects you. You appear to have less regard about how your choices and behavior affects other people. Then again, this is completely understandable and justifiable considering how comfortable their lives are in comparison to yours. It doesn't make it correct.
- Mz 9y agoI actually knew the woman. She actually was a psycho bitch. Her own staff hated her, not just some of the library patrons. You are in no way taking anything I am saying at all seriously. You seem blind to your own biases and they are incredibly offensive. The person cutting my hair merely being polite and tolerating my smell is NOT "the only plausible explanation." I have had people tell me to my face they thought I was a tourist. I am not misreading politeness as something else. So, I think I am done talking with you. Your remarks utterly fail to meet any kind of baseline civility and respect for me as a human being. I'm homeless, so you think you know all there is to know about me based on that one detail and don't confuse you with the facts, your mind is made up.
- linkregister 9y agoI think this is an interesting conversation because you make tons of assumptions about me. You reject advice from my perspective because you claim it doesn't contain baseline civility. I haven't attacked your lifestyle or made any judgement about it. I am telling you that from my comfortable perspective, this is how reality is in the United States. I think the only thing "uncivil" about my perspective is that you disagree with it. And that's fine. I think people in unfortunate circumstances have lots of leeway to feel anger and express it. Who knows, maybe you are outside of my office building right now, and I'll be another faceless programmer drone to put a dollar in your cup.
- Mz 9y agoand I'll be another faceless programmer drone to put a dollar in your cup. I don't panhandle. This is yet another case of you making incredibly offensive assumptions about me and feeling zero obligation whatsoever to own it or even vaguely attempt to pretend to be respectful. I do freelance writing, I blog and I do resume editing. That fact is easily determined.
- raxace 9y agoThey have not been anything but respectful to your opinions. You've also in this conversation let us other readers know that you're poor and homeless, living in a tent. Can you really blame anyone for making a point- and that's all it is- about panhandling? The crude insult about a librarian you felt you were mistreated by is telling about your view on the value of others. I really can't palate the blatant hypocrisy in your words; you are easily offended by others and at the same time accuse everyone else of being horrible.
- linkregister 9y agoI'm sorry to make that assumption. You are right that it is apparent that you write for a living.