I have very amicable interactions with the people who have their own firm grounding. They don't like people and cooperation because the state enforces shit, the

I have very amicable interactions with the people who have their own firm grounding. They don't like people and cooperation because the state enforces shit, they go the proverbial extra mile to say the least. With others, non-violence indeed is hardly an achievement considering all the sophistry to wade through; violence is, other than a form of coercion, a method of censorship, and we often have much "better" ways to either shut people up, or let them talk and insulate ourselves. Big whoop, yay for civilization. But I still don't accept that as a human feature, it's a potential human dysfunction. Those who say it has to be that way are simply saying they cannot even imagine the life I live and the people I see for decades, and that's even before the pseudo-scientific explanations like "it's genetic". Let's grant that it "is genetic", whatever that means: we can still compete by being the funniest, friendliest, smartest, bravest, the best lovers and parents and friends and whatever would impress a partner. There's your competition. Like, in that circle of friends or colleagues, where nobody gets trampled on? The witty person gets to talk a bit more than the dork, that's it. The pretty person gets looked at more than the ugly person. But nobody glares at the dork like "why are you even talking", nobody tells the ugly person to gtfo. You'd still have competition -- but no, you don't have humans tearing each others to shreds and making castes because their parents didn't (or couldn't!) allow them to develop a full blown and trusting personality so that they are always afraid and assume so is everybody else.