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The "rules" against this sort of behavior exist because people can't be trusted to maintain objectivity in these sorts of situations. "Oh but I really like her.
by chrisbennet 9y ago
The "rules" against this sort of behavior exist because people can't be trusted to maintain objectivity in these sorts of situations. "Oh but I really like her." is not an excuse to do whatever you want.
Lets take a more common and less obvious situation; dating coworkers: If things don't work out, often one of the pair will need to leave their job - probably her.
A considerate person would realize that "Would you like to get drinks tonight?" really means "Hey, lets see if we have some chemistry and if it doesn't work out, I'm OK with you losing your job."
- pertymcpert 9y agoWait, are you saying that dating co-workers is wrong? Seriously?
- chrisbennet 9y agoYes, dating co-workers is wrong. Yes, seriously. People who just work at the same company, no. Work isn't the same as school. I think males tend to be oblivious to the downsides of asking a scrum-mate out on a date. After all, it's not awkward for them. I mean, who wouldn't be flattered to be asked out by me right! Even if she didn't accept this time, she's really going to enjoy pair programming with me in the future. This is where the concept of consideration comes into play - a considerate person thinks about how their actions will will affect others, in this case the coworker you ask out or the rest of the team.