He knows who he is. His choice revealed to both her and him who he is and that he's a decent guy. I'm a woman. Some man revealing to me that my hopes, dreams a

He knows who he is. His choice revealed to both her and him who he is and that he's a decent guy. I'm a woman. Some man revealing to me that my hopes, dreams and future are something he is willing to trample in pursuit of sexual gratification for himself is not endearing. It is the opposite of endearing. It makes it clear to me he is a predator and cannot be trusted. The question that gets answered by your choices is a question of character. Doing the right thing means you may get a shot at it later and she will know she can trust you. Hitting on some woman under circumstances where it is ruinous to her dreams is not a way to establish a loving relationship with anyone.