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> My team was 5 women and one man: two of us trans, three women of color Keep in mind that her team helps writes her performance reviews. > For my first few p
by LordHumungous 9y ago
> My team was 5 women and one man: two of us trans, three women of color
Keep in mind that her team helps writes her performance reviews.
> For my first few pull requests, I was getting feedback from literally dozens of engineers (all of whom were male) on other teams, nitpicking the code I had written.
Oh no people were reviewing a new engineer's code. (male employees. you know what that means)
> The post was submitted for editorial review. It was decided that the tone of what I had written was too personal and didn't reflect the voice of the company.
Translation: I wrote a ranty screed and my employer, which unlike me understands the importance of polite communication and cares about its public image, declined to publish it verbatim.
> But pair programming simply didn't happen at GitHub. I would occasionally get another engineer to share a screen to walk me through a particularly hairy subsystem, but actual pairing was extremely rare and I missed it.
Gee I wonder why nobody wanted to pair program with you.
> When I talked to my manager about how she was progressing, I was told to stop the formal mentoring and allow this person to "learn at her own pace, without any pressure from you."
Translation: Your mentee is complaining about you being a huge asshole.
> She told me that the data scientist who had written the survey questions was very upset and had gone to her manager to complain about me.
Guessing this wasn't the first incident.
> This was the first instance of what came to be referred to as my "non-empathetic communication style".
Lol.
> My manager accused me of shutting down the conversation by making it personal.
You would never do such a thing.
> My overall review was a "Does Not Meet Expectations."
Surprise! Your coworkers hate you.
> The same day that I had this review, I got some devastating personal news. I have bipolar depression and was already in a bad place mentally
Aaand here come the excuses.
> she said she felt like I was trying to manipulate her by sharing my feelings in the hopes of influencing the PIP.
You weren't though, right? Right?
> GitHub has made some very public commitments to turning its culture around, but I feel now that these statements are just PR.
Yes this has everything to do with Github's culture and nothing to do with your performance as an employee.
- verinus 9y agoAnd I wonder where the hate in this comment comes from- I can not draw the same conclusions from the blog post and imho your comment tells a lot more about yourself that the case at hand.
- LordHumungous 9y agoNo hate. I see a self-absorbed person who is unable to see their own flaws and who blames everyone but themselves for their own failings. It's sad actually.
- phlakaton 9y agoI see someone unwilling or unable to separate what they were told from the story in their head concocted to explain what they were told. Even more sad, unless you happen to be privy to certain facts of the case that we are not.
- sqldba 9y agoI think you're onto something. This is a valid way of interpreting what happened. I can't help but feel though that the OP is... not very good, and they haven't had very good interactions on some other posts, but also I get the feeling that GH handled everything incredibly badly all along as well.
- LordHumungous 9y agoThe saying seems to apply: "if everyone around you is an asshole, maybe you are the asshole"
- hasenj 9y agoIt's pretty obvious from the OP's tone. Very self absorbed and childish. Just reading it makes me feel like working with that person would be really annoying.
- JCharante 9y agoI read it and got the exact same vibe that LordHumungous and hasenj got.
- Chris2048 9y agoIf you accuse a post of being hateful, back them up. Unsubstantiated, folk-lorish Ad-homs like "tells a lot more about yourself" shouldn't be made.
- jancsika 9y ago> Translation: Your mentee is complaining about you being a huge asshole. That seems too harsh a conclusion given the scant evidence provided. That said, this part stood out to me as potentially troubling: > mentoring is an essential part of being a senior engineer, and this teammate seemed to be benefiting from it Learning by way of a mentorship is an essential part of being a junior engineer. That doesn't imply that all senior engineers must mentor junior engineers. And it definitely does not require or even suggest that senior engineers should seek out junior engineers for potential mentorship (nor even make casual offers for informal mentorship for that matter). Further, the language the author uses in the description is vague as to who requested the mentorship in the first place. It's also vague as to whether the company actually approved or encouraged such a formal mentorship.