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Bad phrasing. Do you think the average New Zealander is ok with their spouse going out for drinks alone with someone of the opposite sex? I'm pretty sure that

Bad phrasing. Do you think the average New Zealander is ok with their spouse going out for drinks alone with someone of the opposite sex? I'm pretty sure that most Americans wouldn't like that, and I think jealousy and insecurity are pretty common among humans of all countries. About the AirBNB thing--it's pretty context dependant. If you are both single and working for a small startup and you did it voluntarily, I think most Most Americans under 40 wouldn't find it too weird. If you're working for a large company, or your startup made you share, I think most of us would think it's strange. If you're in relationships, I don't know very many people who would be fine with their spouse/SO doing it.

SCdF 9y ago
So I think they would be, but yeah, I can only really speak for myself. I have rolled back through my memory, and I have had drinks with women alone before, though not much, but probably as many times as I've had drinks with guys alone before. I just asked my SO and she is OK with it, and thinks people here (we live in London now) would think similarly. > I think jealousy and insecurity are pretty common among humans of all countries. So right, this is interesting! To be clear: if my SO went out for drinks with a guy from work I probably would be jealous and insecure about it, at least a little bit. But that's my failing, not hers, and is for me to get over. It's not fair for me to stop her from chilling out with a friend just because said friend is a dude. So maybe that's the main difference?
- learc83 9y ago
  The thing is most people realize that their SO would be bothered by it, and won't do it. He/or she doesn't have to freak out and demand you stop to be "not OK with it". You clearly wouldn't be OK with your SO doing this despite saying you are, and she'd likely pick up on your feelings.

SCdF 9y ago

So I think they would be, but yeah, I can only really speak for myself. I have rolled back through my memory, and I have had drinks with women alone before, though not much, but probably as many times as I've had drinks with guys alone before. I just asked my SO and she is OK with it, and thinks people here (we live in London now) would think similarly. > I think jealousy and insecurity are pretty common among humans of all countries. So right, this is interesting! To be clear: if my SO went out for drinks with a guy from work I probably would be jealous and insecure about it, at least a little bit. But that's my failing, not hers, and is for me to get over. It's not fair for me to stop her from chilling out with a friend just because said friend is a dude. So maybe that's the main difference?

learc83 9y ago
The thing is most people realize that their SO would be bothered by it, and won't do it. He/or she doesn't have to freak out and demand you stop to be "not OK with it". You clearly wouldn't be OK with your SO doing this despite saying you are, and she'd likely pick up on your feelings.