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This comment could just as well be from another planet to me. I'm in my twenties now and have a GF. I still drive to work with another woman in a car, I have m

This comment could just as well be from another planet to me. I'm in my twenties now and have a GF. I still drive to work with another woman in a car, I have meetings 1 on 1 with my female manager. In my personal life I have girl friends that I am not dating with but that are part of my friends group and that I hang out with. Also in 1 on 1 settings. The fact that the 'risk' you talk about is even part of your daily routine baffles me. Truly baffles me. I have never heard any story (aside from Reddit) like this where a guy loses his work, friends, family and life because a woman simply accused him after being alone with someone. No offense, maybe i'm wrong. I'm not American after all, but I have met Americans and none have opinion even close to the opinion you have on women. It's bizarre to me.

lqdc13 9y ago
Having lived in Europe and the U.S., Bay Area and Europe might as well be on different planets. There are very big cultural differences.
peoplewindow 9y ago
It happens outside the USA too. I'm unconvinced America is so wildly different. With utmost respect to your personal situation, about which I know only what you've said above, I would imagine you'll find it changes as you get older. Dating in your mid-twenties is not the same as even in your mid-thirties. It's not that unexpected for young guys to have big friend groups that include single women, and for people to hang out fairly often and fluidly. As those groups settle down, go their own way and generally dwindle it gets harder to just "hang out" one-on-one with members of the opposite sex if you have a serious girlfriend. Jealousy and insecurity are considered normal and entirely acceptable by women, as are things like banning boyfriends from seeing former friends, rummaging through private messages (including business messages) to try and spot interactions with females, and generally treating any kind of interaction with females that they don't personally know about/condone as if it were actually cheating. Mike Pence is an old married guy. His "never eat alone with a woman" rule may seem baffling to you now, but it doesn't surprise me one bit.

lqdc13 9y ago

Having lived in Europe and the U.S., Bay Area and Europe might as well be on different planets. There are very big cultural differences.

peoplewindow 9y ago

It happens outside the USA too. I'm unconvinced America is so wildly different. With utmost respect to your personal situation, about which I know only what you've said above, I would imagine you'll find it changes as you get older. Dating in your mid-twenties is not the same as even in your mid-thirties. It's not that unexpected for young guys to have big friend groups that include single women, and for people to hang out fairly often and fluidly. As those groups settle down, go their own way and generally dwindle it gets harder to just "hang out" one-on-one with members of the opposite sex if you have a serious girlfriend. Jealousy and insecurity are considered normal and entirely acceptable by women, as are things like banning boyfriends from seeing former friends, rummaging through private messages (including business messages) to try and spot interactions with females, and generally treating any kind of interaction with females that they don't personally know about/condone as if it were actually cheating. Mike Pence is an old married guy. His "never eat alone with a woman" rule may seem baffling to you now, but it doesn't surprise me one bit.