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> when is an appropriate time for a college professor (that works long hours!) to ask a student out on a date? A student generally or one of his students? Ther
by tanderson92 9y ago
> when is an appropriate time for a college professor (that works long hours!) to ask a student out on a date?
A student generally or one of his students? There is a difference. And not too long ago a professor dating a student that he/she didn't have power over was not that uncommon.
- JadeNB 9y ago> And not too long ago a professor dating a student that he/she didn't have power over was not that uncommon. There are a lot of things that are not uncommon, but are still totally inappropriate.
- resf 9y agoWhat's inappropriate is for a third party to decide when and when not two adults can have a private relationship.
- noobermin 9y agoWait a second, if there is no power inbalance, how is it inappropriate? Are we merely arguing about social mores without any reason?
- JadeNB 9y ago> > And not too long ago a professor dating a student that he/she didn't have power over was not that uncommon. > There are a lot of things that are not uncommon, but are still totally inappropriate. Sorry! I was responding late at night, and, even though I quoted it, I totally missed tanderson92 (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14680337 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14680337) 's caveat "that he/she didn't have power over", which, of course, totally changes the ethics. (It still doesn't seem persuasive to me to argue the ethics of a behaviour in terms of what used to be common, since it is still true that a lot of awful things used to be, and still are, common; but my comment was mostly based on a misinterpretation.)