You did not get it, so she informed you flat out about how she really think about the situation. You got angry :). You weren't there, so you're clearly project

You did not get it, so she informed you flat out about how she really think about the situation. You got angry :). You weren't there, so you're clearly projecting. I didn't get angry. I got very anxious. I didn't say a word. My heart rate went up. I started picturing how my character was going to be impugned. Never did I say an angry word to her. As a matter of fact, we clarified the whole situation via email and we were later hanging out with friends at a convention party. Now think how it would come across if you projected "you got mad" in a similar situation to a woman. It would strike me as somewhat jerky and transgressive.