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>With few exceptions, I cannot work with a woman without thinking about having sex with her. Its fine to think whatever you want, imagine murdering your boss,

>With few exceptions, I cannot work with a woman without thinking about having sex with her. Its fine to think whatever you want, imagine murdering your boss, having sex with the coffee machine, whatever you want, that's happening in your brain, doesn't effect anyone else. It's a bit much for >every< girl though, that sounds like a deeper issue. >This normally doesn't leak out, but for some women, I will give them "eyes" and usually feel bad about it afterwards. But that can be persistent, and for the woman, must be kind of creepy feeling. Unless you are being creeper and staring like a weirdo all the time then I doubt they notice. If you are being a creeper and staring 24/7, then you have deeper issues with restraint and politeness that need to be sorted out. >I'm at a loss as to how a man changes this somewhat foundational part of the brain. I think most guys can cope fine, I'd wager most guys have some racey thoughts about co-workers, but the difference between that and being creepy/unprofessional is that its in your brain and you keep it there. Restraint is kind of a "foundational" part of modern life.

qb45 9y ago
> Its fine to think whatever you want, imagine murdering your boss, having sex with the coffee machine, whatever you want I sometimes have brain farts where I imagine some bad/evil/wrong/painful thing done by me or to me and for a short moment feel almost like it's real. For example, today I thought about stabbing someone's eye with a teaspoon I was holding at the time. It's unpleasant. If I imagine something like that happening to me for longer periods, I probably wouldn't want it. > Unless you are being creeper and staring like a weirdo all the time then I doubt they notice. If OP says they notice, they notice. People notice almost everything but consciously act on almost nothing. Sometimes they don't like their own reactions and pretend not to see. One can fall into the trap of trying to find signs of non-noticing only to constantly keep seeing minuscule involuntary signs of noticing. Sometimes feeling like you creep others out makes you behave nervously and actually creep them out. Maybe it's better to be open that these things happen but yet they absolutely don't communicate any will for serious real-world consequences. Or dunno, ask some psychologist.

qb45 9y ago

> Its fine to think whatever you want, imagine murdering your boss, having sex with the coffee machine, whatever you want I sometimes have brain farts where I imagine some bad/evil/wrong/painful thing done by me or to me and for a short moment feel almost like it's real. For example, today I thought about stabbing someone's eye with a teaspoon I was holding at the time. It's unpleasant. If I imagine something like that happening to me for longer periods, I probably wouldn't want it. > Unless you are being creeper and staring like a weirdo all the time then I doubt they notice. If OP says they notice, they notice. People notice almost everything but consciously act on almost nothing. Sometimes they don't like their own reactions and pretend not to see. One can fall into the trap of trying to find signs of non-noticing only to constantly keep seeing minuscule involuntary signs of noticing. Sometimes feeling like you creep others out makes you behave nervously and actually creep them out. Maybe it's better to be open that these things happen but yet they absolutely don't communicate any will for serious real-world consequences. Or dunno, ask some psychologist.