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These are horrible stories. Interesting to see if folks on HN have had the experience of being attracted to an interviewee/interviewer, or investee/investor, a

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• sokoloff 9y ago
  Of course I have. I've also found waitresses or bartenders or other people attractive. If there wasn't a drive for sex programmed into us (as a species), we (as a species) probably would have been out-competed in evolution. How you deal with it is by ignoring it when it would be inappropriate to act on it (or at most, treat as a pleasant-but-valueless part of your day). Now (being married and holding very strict views on monogamy) it's perhaps even more clear/easier than when I was single, but even then it was clear that you don't hit on your waitress as an example. That easily extends to interviewees and subordinates at work or anywhere else where someone can't freely and without consequence say "Hey, maybe I'm flattered, but I'm definitely not interested." (For full disclosure, I have dated colleagues before and know of and support intra-company romances where there is no supervisory relationship. You don't have to close your eyes and pretend you will never find anyone at work to be subjectively attractive. You just have to not ever be an asshole about it, and that's not that hard a goal.)
• jshevek 9y ago
  I don't understand the question "how they dealt with it." You deal with it the same way you deal with being attracted to a married person. You ignore the attraction. It seems to me that every decent person must have urges/desires which they are better off ignoring on a regular basis. Sexual or romantic attraction needn't be any different.