Of course it's a process. Please excuse me for using your post as a spring board, but: When you try to impose rules upon children that don't make any sense for

Of course it's a process. Please excuse me for using your post as a spring board, but: When you try to impose rules upon children that don't make any sense for them in the situation they're in, and that they may simply be mentally incapable of following at that point in their life (cf. the primal urges), it is not going to work just like that. Children need to make up their own mind, and given the limited experience they're coming from, for many years that mind will of course look a little different from what a grown-up opinion would be. That doesn't mean the grown-up opinion is necessarily right, by the way. It has not seen the world from the perspective of the child. The grown-up mind may very well reach another conclusion if it had seen that world.