I have a two-year-old, five-year-old, and seven-year-old. All boys. These are my personal opinions. I find that treating them like people instead of subservi

I have a two-year-old, five-year-old, and seven-year-old. All boys. These are my personal opinions. I find that treating them like people instead of subservient goes a long way. I.e. a bit of latitude in their own life goes a long way. You want them to be able to think for themselves, and my job as a parent is to 1) steer them clear of black holes, 2) help them up when they make a mistake, but not coddle them, and 3) help them find their own path in life, whatever that may be. To your examples: Study: some kids like to study, some don't. The best way to ensure they study is to establish a routine. The best way to create a routine is sitting with them while the routine is established. Religion: Well you have to start somewhere. If you subscribe to religion, teach them. If they go in another direction, support them. In general, explaining the world as you see it to your children goes a long way in shaping their view. Internet: Yes on parental controls. This just comes down to protecting them, the same as you might watch them as a park. Younger children are much more likely to stumble onto something bad than seeking it out. Parental controls just help that. As they get older, you have less ability to control external influences, so you better hope you did a good job in instilling morality and a sense of independent thought. Just remember the most important rule, your kids learn from you. You set the example. Be the best you can be around them and they will come out just fine.