Despite the situation being uncomfortable, we really wanted to... but US government just will not let us. I am already exempt of ESTA and need a regular visa be

Despite the situation being uncomfortable, we really wanted to... but US government just will not let us. I am already exempt of ESTA and need a regular visa because I travel to Iran now and then. For all my 35 years of life, I wanted to become live in the US, and now that I could afford it, it is made impossible by the government (even when my wife has a German passport in a year, we could only do it if we accepted that maybe no persian family member can visit us.