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Sounds strange, and horrible. A relationship isn't a business.`
by _RPM 9y ago
Sounds strange, and horrible. A relationship isn't a business.`
- Xero 9y agoMy thoughts exactly. The language used and driving idea were so clinical and robotic that I couldn't tell if this article was satire or not.
- matthewmacleod 9y agoSure, it's not. But what they've found is a way to communicate openly and honestly; ultimately, if this approach helps to further that, then why's it horrible?
- SomeStupidPoint 9y agoBut business is a relationship and there are economic aspects to some relationships (eg, cohabitation or marriage). If writing it down is a way for them to communicate and negotiate openly, that sounds reasonable and healthy. From the joking clauses, it sounds more like a framework to ensure people have similar expectations and needs are addressed than some kind of binding document. I don't find it particularly shocking that a tool meant for one kind of relationship with economic dimensions can be used as a template for a tool in another kind of relationship with economic dimensions.
- onion2k 9y agoA relationship is whatever the people involved want it to be. If they want to run their relationship like a business that's OK, and to be honest I think it's good to read about people who are enjoying alternative ways of living when a 'normal' way doesn't suit them; it can help other people see that they can live how they want, even if other people see it as "strange, and horrible".
- dsp1234 9y agoIf each person in a relationship is happier because they treat their relationship as a business, then it's pure hubris to suggest they should be less happy because it does not match your notion of what a relationship should be.
- chc 9y agoTrue. Relationships, on average, don't survive nearly as long as businesses. I'm not sure that's necessarily a knock against these people's approach, though.
- taneq 9y agoIt is, though. The two of you are co-founding a family (even if there are no kids planned). The challenges you face when committing to a partner are exactly those you face when starting a business. OK, selling your progeny isn't a valid revenue stream to base your valuation on, but you're probably still going to seek 'venture capital' from a bank to buy a house.
- rokhayakebe 9y agoA relationship isn't a business. Sounds like someone who never met a divorce/family law attorney. In California legally speaking part your relationship is treated as such. http://jurris.com/california/family-law-code/720-721/721-2 http://jurris.com/california/family-law-code/720-721/721-2
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- notadoc 9y agoIn the USA, "marriage" is a legal contract that is often far more cumbersome than any business entanglement. Something to think about.
- dragonwriter 9y agoA relationship that proceeds beyond mere friendship to substantial sharing of resources and responsibilities is, including actual marriage and marriage-like partnerships are very much like business partnerships with other things layered on top, and actually the formation of economic partnerships is historically a key function of marriage.