Disclaimer: I have not lost anyone this close to me yet, but I have been through several extended family deaths. I think you need to know that it is ok to grie

Disclaimer: I have not lost anyone this close to me yet, but I have been through several extended family deaths. I think you need to know that it is ok to grieve. No one is going to think less of you for crying at the funeral, in fact, doing so shows just how much you loved and cared for your father. Let other people comfort you. However, if you're dedicated to this idea of showing strength, you can do your part to help with the organization of everything necessary as a result of your father's passing. Is the funeral already arranged? Did someone write the obituary and get it published? How is your mom holding up? Can you get a casserole over to her house? Finally, talk to your mom about all the financial stuff. She probably had several joint accounts with your dad that will be frozen when they hear about his passing. Documentation will need to be submitted so she can get the assets into her name only. All of the accounts that were only in his name with no beneficiaries listed will go into his estate. Every estate gets assigned an executor, and it will probably be your mom. Let her know that you would be happy to go to those sorts of appointments with her. Buy 5-10 death certificates. Each financial institution will need to at least make a copy, and some will need an original. Of course all that stuff in the previous paragraph needs to wait until everyone involved is ready. In the meantime, force yourself to eat even if you don't feel like it. Make sure your mom and siblings are eating too. Grief always kills my appetite, but you've got to keep eating so you can have the strength to emotionally recover.