Today was my Mother's Birthday, she passed away three years ago from a Brain Tumor. At the time (and still now) I didn't know how to deal with it, and having tw

Today was my Mother's Birthday, she passed away three years ago from a Brain Tumor. At the time (and still now) I didn't know how to deal with it, and having two younger siblings I felt a responsibility to be strong for them. The only obligation you have is to be there for them when they need you. Don't underestimate the value of making them a meal, going to the grocery store with your Mom, the little things go a long way at times like these. All I can say, and I know it sounds cliche, but time really does heal wounds. You will still be sad when you think about your father, but the panging inescapable fear and pain that you're experiencing now WILL subside. The only advice I have is to go easy on yourself, don't try and "hold yourself" to any standards, some days will be harder than others, but you WILL experience joy again, even if you literally can't imagine it.