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> I had to get mortgage for a house for her parents. You married your wife or her parents? Why would you do such thing.
by romanovcode 9y ago
> I had to get mortgage for a house for her parents.
You married your wife or her parents? Why would you do such thing.
- sjg007 9y agoIt could be better than them moving in! At least at some point he can sell the house to hopefully recoup the cost!
- kodt 9y agoYou don't think children should care for their parents?
- romanovcode 9y agoThey should. For their parents.
- kodt 9y agoI don't think it is fair for the sole earner in a relationship to say "Sorry, I will only support my own parents, yours are SOL". Seems to be a very self centered view, and not respectful the relationship he is in with his wife. When you get married, you take on some responsibility in caring for members of their extended family as well.
- logfromblammo 9y agoConversely, it is not fair for someone who needs to support their parents to expect their spouse to carry the entire burden. That is, in that situation, there should be no sole earner to say such a thing.
- kodt 9y agoI agree unless they discussed being a sole earner household and agreed it is what they wanted (usually because they want one parent to stay home and raise children). If they have no children, or no immediate plans to have children, then I would agree they should both be working.
- logfromblammo 9y agoGiven the social climate in the US, if there are no children or plans for children, that removes about 80% of the incentive for getting married. And I certainly don't think that anyone from a younger generation should be buying anyone from an older generation an entire house. The parents or parents-in-law can have a bedroom, pay you rent for it, and as long as they're living under your roof, they can live by your rules. Isn't that what they told you when you turned 18 and you couldn't afford your own house?