I'm not big and strong, and definitely not "very cool", and my child sample size is 5 times smaller than yours, so I wouldn't know by experience, but I agree on

I'm not big and strong, and definitely not "very cool", and my child sample size is 5 times smaller than yours, so I wouldn't know by experience, but I agree on the missing link between communication differences and bullying, and indeed boys and girls may well have different brains and needs, on average. The article doesn't make that point, but kids with communication needs more into the other gender's distribution also exists. I would say as you do, look at your kids, treat them according to their needs. Outcomes are of course fairly unpredicatable in any case. I guess there is always the possibility that a parent's behaviour before children express their need clearly can steer the children's behaviour. I do wonder about cultural differences. Hyperbolically, I find US masculinity as different from say its Norwegian version as I find girls from boys.