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Key takeaways: Pregnancy is rarely planned among the populations they studied, that is, the lower class. Cause – The key weakness is not the father’s bond to
by Red_Tarsius 9y ago
Key takeaways:
Pregnancy is rarely planned among the populations they studied, that is, the lower class.
Cause – The key weakness is not the father’s bond to the child; it’s the parents’ bond with each other... The fathers often retain a traditional and idealistic “Leave It to Beaver” view of marriage. They dream of the perfect soul mate. They know this woman isn’t it, so they are still looking.
Fathers – When the men learn that their partner is pregnant, they don’t panic, or lament all the freedom they are going to miss. On the contrary, three-quarters of the men... were joyous at the news. The men are less likely than the women to want to end the pregnancy with an abortion.
Fathers #2 – These guys have often had a lot of negativity in their lives. The child is a chance to turn things around and live a disciplined life. The child is a chance to have a respected role, to find love and purpose.
Mothers – Buried in the rigors of motherhood, the women take a very practical view of what they need in a man: Will this guy provide the financial stability I need, and if not, can I trade up to someone who will?
Effects – By the time the child is 1, half these couples have split up, and many of the rest will part ways soon after.
The article fails to mention the major role of divorce in single parenthood.