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And if they genuinely are well meaning, they are usually open to getting some push back. It isn't necessary to hate on people in order to inform them "Well, tha
by Mz 9y ago
And if they genuinely are well meaning, they are usually open to getting some push back. It isn't necessary to hate on people in order to inform them "Well, that isn't how it works if you are X."
One of the things that most opened my eyes to racism was when I was dealing with the DMV and it was incredibly frustrating. There seemed to be no means whatsoever to fix my issue. And then the black person at the counter walked over to their white boss and straightfacedly lied "She never got her bill." At that point, all I had to do was pay a late fee and, voila, my stint in DMV purgatory was over. (I had driven a thousand miles with expired plates to handle this debacle in person and was still hitting a wall until this person did that.)
That clued me that blacks routinely deal with "Fuck you, no, it can't be solved" situations that are not the norm for white people. It made me vastly more informed and sympathetic. It did not make me feel alienated.
I know far too many people on the internet who claim they want the world to be a better place, but by their actions it is clear that they take it as a given that the lord of the flies pecking order bs is just how the world works and cannot be solved. They just want to change who gets shit upon and gets to do the shitting.
Is it any wonder that people in privileged positions aren't very friendly to their proposition that "No, YOU should be the designated toilet of the world, and I should be one of the people who gets to shit on you!"
I would like to see a world in which we all agree that shitting on other people is not ok, no matter who they are.
- zepto 9y agoSeems like you think that the legacy of slavery and institutionalized racism is equivalent to unkind words on the internet. Personally I'd only call one of these 'shitting on other people'.
- Mz 9y agoWords on the internet really caused this heterosexual male some serious problems: http://micheleincalifornia.blogspot.com/2014/11/having-sad.html http://micheleincalifornia.blogspot.com/2014/11/having-sad.h... Words on the internet and via text message probably helped drive this man to suicide: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/true-crime/wp/2017/06/10/michelle-carters-defense-boyfriend-googled-suicide-by-cop-before-killing-himself/?utm_term=.22ce953ced73 https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/true-crime/wp/2017/06/10... My mother always said "Two wrongs don't make a right." I don't see how taking your anger out on random strangers somehow fixes anything in your life.
- zepto 9y agoBy supporting your position with these examples, it sure seems like you are continuing to try to equate the two.
- Mz 9y agoBy ignoring these two examples, it sure seems like you are continuing to justify a desire for revenge, which has nothing to do with trying to make life better in the here and now and in the future for women, poc, etc.
- zepto 9y agoFor what it's worth - I think it's terrible when anyone kills themselves as a result of psychological suffering caused by another. Not only that but there are clearly examples of straight up murder by PoC and women. Claiming that because of this you get to dismiss the legacy of racism and institutionalized racism, is a straight up defense of racism and white supremacy. Nice job.
- Mz 9y agoNo, that isn't what I claimed at all. And you twisting my statements in that way belies your statements elsewhere that you aren't angry. I am sorry for whatever it is you have suffered that you are so angry. I have a very deadly medical condition. I am homeless. I was sexually abused as a child. I am also getting healthier, paying off debts and I am the top ranked woman on Hacker News which is helping me further my personal goals. Because I spent a lot of years working to put my anger down and stop using every person I ran into as a scratching post to sharpen my claws. Whatever other shitty thing you say to me next, I think I am done with this conversation. Because you are dragging me down to your level and failing to see that no one here wants to listen to your side precisely because you are being so consistently ugly. And that is exactly my point. I am the top ranked woman here because I don't come in here and kick the shit out of every man here for simply being born male. I do, however, stand up for myself and give push back when I feel that is appropriate. There is a difference between those two things. They are NOT synonymous. That is getting results and it breaks the cycle of "who gets to be the designated toilet in our Lord of the Flies society?"